I don't know who these poor children are but I wish I could hug each one of them. The looks on their faces says it all.
Do you think this works?
Your children are fighting and kicking and screaming and your answer to this is to make a joke out of them? This isn't something that the parents did without thinking first like when we swat our child's bottom in the midst of anger before we have time to think. No, these parent's had it all planned out. Get the shirt, then decorate the shirt, then force our children to wear it, then take a picture of it, then plaster it on the internet for the world to see.
As an adult I know how terrible I feel when I am arguing with someone. I want to cry. I want the situation to be fixed. I want help. I can't imagine how I would feel if the one I trust and love turned my pain into their entertainment.
Our children are a reflection of us. As painful as the truth is, if your child has a temper, hits, screams and bites when he/she is mad, chances are they learned that from you! As parents we need to stop and think about what we are doing. We are raising a human being for Christ's sake! We have the opportunity to make something fresh and new. Let's try not to screw that up!
I have made many, many mistakes in my life. Many in which I pay for everyday of my life. I have made mistakes with how I have handled situations with my children. But that bothers me so each day I try to be better. Be a better leader, a bigger lover and gentler person. When my oldest was very small, it never felt right to punish her or hit and spank. I have spanked my children before and as I have said before, I regretted it every time.
I certainly have never punished my children for my entertainment. That is all this shirt is. Entertainment for adults. You can't honestly believe that these two young children by them wearing this shirt it will make them happy and get along? It's going to make them even angrier, I guarantee it!
If you are tired of hearing your kids fight, whine and cry, then have a "heart to heart" with them. Genuinely share your feelings with them. I do this often and it WORKS!
"Kids, I can't stand to hear you guys act like this, it makes me want to scream and when I scream at you I feel bad. Do you think you guys are acting appropriately? What made you so mad? Why are you even fighting? I want us all to work on how we handle our anger and what happens. I won't scream at you and hit you."
Come up with a plan that works for you and your family. Everyone is different and that is what makes the world go 'round but do we really need to resort to these kinds of punishments? After more and more research surfaced that spanking only creates an angry, aggressive child and after our instincts resorting to talking to our children rather than smacking them life has been smooth. Unfortunately, our oldest were our guinea pigs. They did experience minimal spanking. And every time I lay in bed at night and think about it, it breaks my heart! Our youngest has never been spanked. As a result, he has also never really hit either.
Something to think about. And please, don't make one of these shirts for your child. It wont make you cool.
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